{"id":1174,"date":"2020-07-15T13:30:52","date_gmt":"2020-07-15T13:30:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/?post_type=episode&#038;p=1174"},"modified":"2021-01-15T18:06:05","modified_gmt":"2021-01-15T18:06:05","slug":"4-de-ce-ne-este-frica","status":"publish","type":"episode","link":"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/?episode=4-de-ce-ne-este-frica","title":{"rendered":"#4 De ce ne este fric\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><em>Aboneaz\u0103-te la podcastul \u201eSunt Bine\u201d \u0219i las\u0103-ne o recomandare! \ud83c\udf1f<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--1\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-vivid-purple-color has-text-color wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/sunt-bine-podcast\/id1505037113\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Apple Podcasts<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--2\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-vivid-red-color has-text-color wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.google.com\/feed\/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xODdiMzE5MC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Google Podcasts<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--3\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0uzfEeaELxUIpQHnyF7TrL\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Spotify<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Alex, 31 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eAm o fric\u0103 de \u00eentuneric absolut, de negrea\u021b\u0103 groas\u0103, c\u00e2nd nu po\u021bi s\u0103 distingi nimic.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Alina, 26 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eFrica de a e\u0219ua, frica de a nu face fa\u021b\u0103 lucrurilor, frica de a nu face fa\u021b\u0103 provoc\u0103rilor, frica de a nu face fa\u021b\u0103 a\u0219tept\u0103rilor.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Iulia, 34 de ani, Bucure\u0219ti: <\/strong><em>\u201eUna dintre cele mai mari fobii ale mele este cea de p\u0103s\u0103ri.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Vitalie, 41 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201e\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, mi-e fric\u0103 s\u0103 vorbesc \u00een public, cu tot felul de varia\u021bii.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Anastasia, 28 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eO alt\u0103 fric\u0103 este frica de spa\u021biile \u00eenchise.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ecaterina, 32 de ani, Milano: <\/strong><em>\u201eApa a fost \u00eentotdeauna cea care mi-a creat un sentiment de fric\u0103.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Valeria, 26 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eFrica de a dezam\u0103gi oamenii, frica de a fi singur\u0103, frica s\u0103 nu m\u0103 simt suflete\u0219te \u00eemplinit\u0103. Dup\u0103 mine, cumva, toate aceste frici sunt \u00eentr-o m\u0103sur\u0103 legate \u00eentre d\u00e2nsele. Mi-e fric\u0103 s\u0103 nu m\u0103 ridic la a\u0219tept\u0103rile oamenilor.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Andrei, 34 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eMie mi-e fric\u0103 de incendii, cutremure \u0219i, probabil, lucruri cu efect negativ \u0219i ireversibil.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">De c\u00e2nd se \u021bine minte, Ecaterina simte fric\u0103 \u00een preajma apei. E cuprins\u0103 de fiori de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd e aproape de un bazin sau de mare. Ecaterina are 32 de ani \u0219i e stabilit\u0103 la Milano. \u00ce\u015fi aminte\u015fte cu precizie momentul c\u00e2nd aceast\u0103 fobie s-a \u00eenr\u0103d\u0103cinat \u00een via\u021ba ei, de parc\u0103 s-ar fi \u00eent\u00e2mplat ieri.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eEram la un lac cu o prieten\u0103 de-a mea, cu c\u00e2\u021biva colegi de clas\u0103, st\u0103team \u0219i ne relaxam, iar la un moment dat, mul\u021bi dintre prieteni au \u00eenceput s\u0103 fac\u0103 baie. Eu nu am cutezat din motiv c\u0103 aveam \u00eentotdeauna fric\u0103 de ap\u0103, \u00eens\u0103 unul din amicii no\u0219tri de-atunci \u0219i-a permis s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eemping\u0103 de la spate, f\u0103r\u0103 ca eu s\u0103-mi dau seama, f\u0103r\u0103 ca eu s\u0103 vreau \u00een ap\u0103. Atunci mi-am dat seama c\u0103 apa e cea mai mare fric\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tiam nimic ce s\u0103 fac.\u201d<\/p><cite><strong>Ecaterina, 32 de ani, Milano<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Sub ap\u0103, g\u00e2ndirea i s-a oprit \u00een loc. Sim\u021bea cum se rupe de realitate \u0219i frica o paralizeaz\u0103. C\u00e2nd au v\u0103zut c\u0103 Ecaterina nu iese la suprafa\u021b\u0103, c\u00e2\u021biva prieteni au s\u0103rit s\u0103 o scoat\u0103 din lac. Buzele adolescentei erau deja albastre. \u0218i-a revenit dup\u0103 ce a \u00eenceput s\u0103 tu\u0219easc\u0103. Cu prima gur\u0103 de aer a venit \u0219i con\u015ftientizarea unui fapt: se va teme mereu de ap\u0103. \u015ei a\u0219a a fost. Retr\u0103ia incidentul de pe lac \u00een co\u0219maruri chiar \u0219i dup\u0103 ani de zile.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ecaterina, 32 de ani, Milano:<\/strong> \u201e\u0218i a \u00eenceput s\u0103 nu-mi permit\u0103 s\u0103 dorm, pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 trezeam din somn cu o senza\u021bie de sufocare, pe care a\u0219 putea-o defini real\u0103, pentru c\u0103, \u00eentr-adev\u0103r, \u00een timpul visului aveam impresia c\u0103 nu respir, deci m\u0103 trezeam ca \u0219i cum m-a\u0219 fi \u00eenecat cu adev\u0103rat. Cea mai dorin\u021b\u0103 a mea era s\u0103 \u00eenfrunt aceast\u0103 fric\u0103, s\u0103 pot s\u0103 m\u0103 odihnesc noaptea \u015fi s\u0103 nu fiu urm\u0103rit\u0103 de acest co\u0219mar periodic, la o anumit\u0103 distan\u021b\u0103 de timp.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Frica este una dintre cele \u0219ase emo\u021bii fundamentale cu care ne na\u0219tem, al\u0103turi de furie, fericire, dezgust, triste\u021be \u0219i uimire. Este o emo\u021bie absolut normal\u0103, care ne d\u0103 de \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 ne-am putea afla \u00een pericol. Exist\u0103 \u00eens\u0103 situa\u021bii \u00een care frica devine exagerat\u0103 \u0219i persistent\u0103, \u00een lipsa unui pericol real, \u0219i ne poate afecta grav via\u021ba. \u00cen aceste cazuri, putem spune c\u0103 am dezvoltat o fobie. C\u00e2nd ne este team\u0103, ne transpir\u0103 palmele, suntem palizi, respira\u021bia se \u00eente\u021be\u0219te, inima ne bate mai des, pentru ca s\u00e2ngele s\u0103 circule mai repede c\u0103tre organele vitale. Iat\u0103 ce simte \u00een momente de fric\u0103 Alex, un t\u00e2n\u0103r de 31 de ani din Chi\u0219in\u0103u:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eAm o fric\u0103 de \u00eentuneric absolut, de negrea\u021b\u0103 groas\u0103, c\u00e2nd nu po\u021bi s\u0103 distingi nimic. Dar nu de bezna de-afar\u0103, dar de aia pe care o tr\u0103ie\u0219ti \u00eentr-o \u00eenc\u0103pere. \u0218i nu c\u0103 m-a\u0219 teme de mon\u0219tri, e altceva. E atunci c\u00e2nd sim\u021bi c\u0103 nu po\u021bi s\u0103 controlezi nimic. Eu c\u00e2nd m\u0103 trezesc \u0219i nu pot s\u0103 \u00eentrev\u0103d ceva, simt c\u0103 nu am aer, m\u0103 sufoc, caut s\u0103 aprind lumina, am sentimentul c\u0103 a\u0219 fi b\u0103gat \u00eentr-o \u021beav\u0103 din care nu am sc\u0103pare. E foarte nepl\u0103cut.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><cite><strong>Alex, 31 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>De-a lungul timpului, au fost identificate sute de frici. Asocia\u021bia American\u0103 de Psihiatrie le-a clasificat \u00een mai multe categorii: fobia de mediul natural, cum ar fi de ap\u0103, \u00een\u0103l\u021bimi, cutremure. Fobia de anumite situa\u021bii, cum ar fi de zbor sau de spa\u021bii \u00eenchise. Fobia de proceduri medicale, fobia de insecte \u0219i de animale.<strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2048\" height=\"2048\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/04_frici_web.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1176\"\/><figcaption><em>Ilustra\u021bie de Ana Grigorovscaia<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>De exemplu, frica de p\u0103s\u0103ri. Iulia, care e din Bucure\u0219ti \u015fi are 34 de ani, zice c\u0103 pu\u021bin\u0103 lume \u00een\u021belege aceast\u0103 fobie. Dup\u0103 mai multe r\u0103scoliri prin amintiri, t\u00e2n\u0103ra \u0219i-a dat seama c\u00e2nd i-a ap\u0103rut.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Iulia, 34 de ani, Bucure\u0219ti:<\/strong> \u201e\u00cemi amintesc c\u0103 &#8211; mai mult ca sigur &#8211; am trecut la un moment dat prin sufragerie c\u00e2nd p\u0103rin\u021bii mei se uitau la \u201eP\u0103s\u0103rile\u201d lui Hitchcock, la care eu nu aveam voie s\u0103 m\u0103 uit, pe bun\u0103 dreptate. \u0218i cred c\u0103, nu \u0219tiu prin ce capriciu al sor\u021bii, am reu\u0219it s\u0103 prind exact acel moment \u00een care p\u0103s\u0103rile atacau persoanele \u0219i le scoteau ochii. \u0218i cred c\u0103 momentul acela a r\u0103mas cu mine.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Frica s-a sedimentat dup\u0103 ce veri\u0219orul ei, al\u0103turi de care a crescut, a \u00eenceput s\u0103-i arate tot soiul de ciud\u0103\u021benii, inclusiv porumbei mor\u021bi, pe care-i g\u0103sea \u00een jurul blocului. S-a dovedit prea mult pentru mintea unei fete de 7-8 ani. Au \u00eenceput s\u0103 o chinuie co\u0219maruri \u00een care p\u0103s\u0103rile o urm\u0103reau, o torturau \u0219i se transformau \u00een mon\u0219trii de sub pat. Uneori \u00eens\u0103, frica lua forme mai haioase.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Iulia, 34 de ani, Bucure\u0219ti:<\/strong> \u201eUna dintre problemele mele latente este cu penele. Tocmai de aceea nu suport pernele cu pene. A fost o tortur\u0103 pentru mine s\u0103 dorm pe perne cu pene \u00een copil\u0103rie, \u00een satul bunicii mele din Maramure\u0219. Erau ni\u0219te perne extraordinar de grozave, dar m\u0103 trezeam noaptea \u0219i urlam c\u0103 penele din perne m\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103. Pentru mine, c\u00e2nd s-au inventat pernele cu strat antialergic sau cu burete sau ce mai con\u021bin ele acuma, a fost o foarte mare \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bire a vie\u021bii.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Po\u021bi sim\u021bi frica \u00een g\u00e2t, \u00een stomac, \u00een piept sau \u00een m\u00e2inile tremur\u00e2nde. \u00cen unele cazuri, frica poate crea impresia c\u0103 paralizeaz\u0103 \u00eentregul corp. De fapt, sentimentul de fric\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219te ad\u00e2nc \u00een creierul uman \u0219i anume \u00een amigdala cerebral\u0103. De\u0219i e o structur\u0103 foarte mic\u0103, c\u00e2t un s\u00e2mbure de migdal, are puterea s\u0103 declan\u0219eze una dintre cele mai puternice emo\u021bii omene\u0219ti. Psihologul Ina Crasnojon explic\u0103 mai multe despre acest proces:&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ina<\/strong> <strong>Crasnojon<\/strong>: \u201eAmigdala este asemenea unei l\u0103mpi care st\u0103 acolo \u00eentre creierul superior \u0219i creierul inferior, ea doar a\u0219teapt\u0103 ca eu s\u0103-i zic start sau s\u0103 o aprind. \u0218i \u00een momentul \u00een care ea se aprinde, asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 noi ne speriem \u0219i avem impresia c\u0103 gata, eu m-am pierdut, nu mai fac fa\u021b\u0103, \u00eemi fuge p\u0103m\u00e2ntul de sub picioare, dar, de fapt, amigdala ne d\u0103 de \u0219tire c\u0103 ea preia controlul asupra situa\u021biei \u0219i ne preg\u0103te\u0219te pe noi pentru un posibil pericol \u0219i de asta corpul nostru recurge la o anumit\u0103 reac\u021bie. Dar oamenii nu \u00een\u021beleg cum func\u021bioneaz\u0103 mecanismul \u0219i noi \u00eencepem s\u0103 ne panic\u0103m, ajungem chiar p\u00e2n\u0103 la atacuri de panic\u0103.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>L\u0103mpile din creierii lui Alex \u0219i Andrei se aprind la vederea unui c\u00e2ine. Ambii au peste 30 de ani \u0219i pentru ambii ie\u0219irile \u00een ora\u0219 \u00eenseamn\u0103 o grij\u0103 \u00een plus. Alex, bun\u0103oar\u0103, e gata s\u0103 \u00eenconjoare cartiere \u00eentregi dac\u0103 asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 un risc mai mic de a \u00eent\u00e2lni c\u00e2ini, iar uneori poate trece neregulamentar strada ca s\u0103 evite un patruped.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Alex, 31 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u:<\/strong> \u201eCred c\u0103 am observat aceast\u0103 fric\u0103 la mine c\u00e2nd \u00eenc\u0103 tr\u0103iam la \u021bar\u0103, \u00een satul R\u0103doaia, \u0219i nana m\u0103 trimitea la alt\u0103 nan\u0103 s\u0103 aduc ro\u0219ii. \u0218i trebuia s\u0103 merg pe o hudi\u021b\u0103 \u00een care fiecare gospod\u0103rie avea foarte mul\u021bi c\u00e2ini. \u0218i pentru mine era, practic, o trecere a groazei. De atunci, a\u0219a de tare mi s-a \u00eentip\u0103rit aceast\u0103 fric\u0103 \u00een mine, \u00eenc\u00e2t \u00een momentele date chiar nu m\u0103 pot controla. \u00cen\u021beleg\u00e2nd c\u0103 am aceast\u0103 fric\u0103, uneori \u00eencerc s\u0103 nu m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc la asta \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nt Beatles \u00een cap, \u00een speran\u021ba c\u0103 frica \u00eemi va disp\u0103rea. Eu mereu spun: la un moment dat, c\u00e2nd mergi printr-un loc mai \u00eentunecat, cu oamenii te mai \u00een\u021belegi, dai portofelul, dai banii, dar cu un c\u00e2ine care fuge spre tine nu prea ai cum s\u0103 te \u00een\u021belegi.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u00e2t despre Andrei, care, apropo, e autorul coloanei sonore a podcastului nostru, el spune c\u0103 nu poate merge \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103 cu bicicleta prin Chi\u0219in\u0103u. \u00cei plac c\u00e2inii. C\u00e2nd era elev, ie\u0219ea la plimbare cu c\u00e2inele vecinului, un ciob\u0103nesc german mai \u00eenalt dec\u00e2t d\u00e2nsul. A \u00eenceput s\u0103-i fie team\u0103 dup\u0103 ce a fost atacat de doi c\u00e2ini. Acum, Andrei \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i fac\u0103 plimb\u0103rile pe biciclet\u0103 mai sigure.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Andrei, 34 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u:<\/strong> \u201eAm citit o mul\u021bime de sfaturi despre ce s\u0103 faci atunci c\u00e2nd te atac\u0103 un c\u00e2ine \u0219i chiar dac\u0103 le \u0219tiu pe toate, strategiile \u0219i curajul meu sunt testate atunci c\u00e2nd ridic vreun deal cu vreo 10 km la or\u0103, iar \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 apare un c\u00e2ine. Am avut un caz haios, la fel pe biciclet\u0103. La un moment dat, am auzit un sunet sau mai multe sunete. C\u00e2nd am \u00eentors capul, cred c\u0103 alergau vreo patru-cinci din urma mea. Alergau at\u00e2t de repede c\u0103 nici nu aveau putere s\u0103 latre. Atunci am avut noroc c\u0103 era drum drept \u0219i aveam \u0219i eu 35-40 km la or\u0103. Pe viitor vreau tot mai rar s\u0103 \u00eenconjor c\u00e2inii, mai ales c\u0103 mie tare \u00eemi plac \u0219i ei sunt foarte <em>cute <\/em>(dr\u0103gu\u0163i &#8211; trad. engl.).\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u00e2nd apar fricile? De cele mai multe ori, \u00een copil\u0103rie \u0219i \u00een adolescen\u021b\u0103, afirm\u0103 psihologul Ina Crasnojon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eConteaz\u0103 foarte mult modul nostru de a g\u00e2ndi, care sunt schemele noastre cognitive pe care le-am construit p\u00e2n\u0103 la v\u00e2rsta de 18 ani. Conteaz\u0103 ce transmitem noi copiilor, pentru c\u0103 experien\u021bele de via\u021b\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la v\u00e2rsta de 8 ani sunt foarte-foarte importante.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><cite><strong>Ina Crasnojon<\/strong>, psiholog<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Fricile dezvoltate \u00een copil\u0103rie \u0219i adolescen\u021b\u0103 pot fi tranzitorii. \u00cens\u0103 dac\u0103 o fric\u0103 sever\u0103 s-a strecurat \u00een via\u021ba de adult, este mai pu\u021bin probabil s\u0103 dispar\u0103 de la sine. Frica poate ap\u0103rea \u0219i ca urmare a unei traume, cum s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u00een cazul Anei-Maria, care se teme de oamenii agresivi din cauza tat\u0103lui ei violent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ana-Maria, 19 ani: <\/strong>\u201eDe c\u00e2nd sunt mic\u0103, \u021bin minte c\u0103 el se comporta foarte ur\u00e2t, uneori chiar nu am dormit acas\u0103, pentru c\u0103 era imposibil. \u0218i \u021bin minte foarte bine o scen\u0103 care m-a marcat foarte mult. Ne preg\u0103team pentru un teatru social \u0219i coordonatorul mi-a propus s\u0103 fiu \u00een calitate de mam\u0103 \u0219i trebuia s\u0103 ridic vocea la un copil, pentru c\u0103 ceva f\u0103cuse incorect. \u015ei atunci c\u00e2nd coordonatoarea \u00eemi explica cum s\u0103 ridic vocea, cum s\u0103 vorbesc, am izbucnit toat\u0103 \u00een pl\u00e2ns \u0219i nu mai eram \u00een stare s\u0103 duc p\u00e2n\u0103 la cap\u0103t acest <em>task<\/em> (sarcin\u0103 &#8211; trad. engl.) \u0219i p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103 nu am mai fost eu p\u0103rinte \u00een acea scen\u0103 de teatru. Mereu c\u00e2nd \u00eemi aduc aminte de acea scen\u0103, am a\u0219a emo\u021bii negative.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Totul s-a schimbat \u00eentr-o zi, c\u00e2nd Ana-Maria, mama ei \u0219i cele dou\u0103 surori au decis s\u0103 plece de acas\u0103.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eA fost o zi foarte complicat\u0103 din punct de vedere psihologic. Pentru c\u0103 de diminea\u021b\u0103 noi eram \u00een mahala la o prieten\u0103 \u0219i mama a r\u0103mas singur\u0103 acas\u0103 cu tat\u0103l. Tat\u0103l era beat de diminea\u021b\u0103 \u0219i a supus-o violen\u021bei fizice \u0219i, c\u00e2nd noi ne-am \u00eentors acas\u0103, ea nu era \u00eentr-o stare foarte bun\u0103. A fost o decizie foarte rapid\u0103 &#8211; fetele, noi ne ducem de-acas\u0103 acum, pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a nu mai poate continua. \u0218i ne-am luat strictul necesar, ce am reu\u0219it, hainele &#8211; pentru c\u0103 el nici nu ne permitea s\u0103 ie\u0219im din cas\u0103 &#8211; \u0219i am alergat, am evadat, s\u0103 spun a\u0219a. Acum m\u0103 simt mult mai \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103 \u0219i fericit\u0103 pentru noi toate.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><cite><strong>Ana-Maria, 19 ani<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>E uman s\u0103 avem frici. Suntem oameni, nu suntem robo\u021bi. Dar ce facem c\u00e2nd ne pomenim fa\u021b\u0103 \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 cu proverbialii mon\u0219tri de sub pat? Unii dintre ascult\u0103torii no\u0219tri cu care am discutat au ales s\u0103 convie\u021buiasc\u0103 cu temerile lor. Al\u021bii au decis s\u0103 le ascund\u0103 \u00een cele mai \u00eentunecate cotloane ale con\u0219tiin\u021bei. Dar au fost \u0219i c\u00e2\u021biva care au vrut s\u0103-\u015fi \u00eenfrunte fobiile. Le \u021bine\u021bi minte pe Iulia \u0219i pe Ecaterina, despre care v\u0103 povesteam la \u00eenceput? Una dintre femei are fric\u0103 de ap\u0103, iar cealalt\u0103 \u2013 de p\u0103s\u0103ri. Iat\u0103 ce au \u00eentreprins ca s\u0103 treac\u0103 peste fricile lor \u0219i ce au aflat despre sine \u00eentre timp.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Iulia, 34 de ani, Bucure\u0219ti:<\/strong> \u201eAm fost \u00eentr-un an la festivalul medieval de la Sighi\u0219oara, unde veneau tot felul de expozan\u021bi \u0219i au venit \u0219i ni\u0219te oameni care cresc \u0219i ad\u0103postesc, de fapt, salveaz\u0103 p\u0103s\u0103ri r\u0103nite sau pierdute \u0219i le cresc, \u0219i le ad\u0103postesc: p\u0103s\u0103ri de prad\u0103, huhurezi, bufni\u021be, ere\u021bi, ulii \u0219i altele asemenea \u0219i puteai s\u0103 pui m\u00e2na pe ele cu o m\u0103nu\u0219\u0103 special\u0103, din acelea de cresc\u0103tori de \u0219oim, \u0219i am reu\u0219it s\u0103 fac asta. Am reu\u0219it s\u0103 fac asta cu o bufni\u021b\u0103 mic\u0103, cred, pentru c\u0103 mi se p\u0103rea cea mai pu\u021bin periculoas\u0103 dintre toate, avea ciocul cel mai pu\u021bin t\u0103ios, am rezistat, cred, c\u00e2teva minute, poate nu minute, minute e exagerare, c\u00e2teva zeci de secunde \u0219i apoi bufni\u021ba &#8211; care era un pui, de fapt &#8211; s-a speriat \u0219i a \u00eenceput s\u0103 bat\u0103 din aripi. Pentru mine a fost un moment absolut \u00eengrozitor. Nu pot spune c\u0103 mi-am vindecat aceast\u0103 fobie, de\u0219i acum, c\u00e2nd m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc intens, pot s\u0103-mi dau seama de unde, p\u00e2n\u0103 unde&#8230; Pur \u0219i simplu, dac\u0103 v\u0103d un porumbel, trec pe partea cealalt\u0103.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eParadoxal, logic a fost s\u0103 \u00eenving frica de ap\u0103 anume prin \u00eenot. Primul pas mic-mic-mic a fost s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenscriu la un curs de \u00eenot. Da, am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 \u00eenot, \u00eens\u0103 frica de ap\u0103 totu\u0219i pu\u021bin se mai manifest\u0103, dar n-o s\u0103 permit niciodat\u0103 ca o fric\u0103 s\u0103-mi controleze via\u021ba, deci am s\u0103 continui p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd o s\u0103 m\u0103 simt \u00een ap\u0103 la fel ca \u0219i cum m\u0103 simt pe uscat.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><cite><strong>Ecaterina, 32 de ani, Milano<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Ceea ce au f\u0103cut Iulia, Ecaterina \u0219i M\u0103d\u0103lina instinctiv este o tehnic\u0103 de terapie cunoscut\u0103 ca \u201eexpunere gradat\u0103\u201d. De\u0219i nu este o metod\u0103 pl\u0103cut\u0103, fiindc\u0103 presupune eforturi pentru a p\u0103\u0219i \u00een afara zonei de confort, anume expunerea gradat\u0103 ajut\u0103 s\u0103 treci peste frici, fobii \u0219i anxiet\u0103\u021bi, consider\u0103 Ina Crasnojon:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ina Crasnojon<\/strong>: \u201eE normal s\u0103 ne \u00eengrijor\u0103m, dar cel mai bine e s\u0103 \u0219tim: ce fac eu cu g\u00e2ndul care-mi declan\u0219eaz\u0103 emo\u021bia. Cel mai potrivit este s\u0103 se expun\u0103 gradat la mediul social ca s\u0103 se conving\u0103 c\u0103 nimic grav nu i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Este normal s\u0103 avem frici, spune psihologul Ina Crasnojon, dar nu trebuie s\u0103 tr\u0103im cu ele \u00een fiecare zi. Dac\u0103 starea de fric\u0103 ne domin\u0103 \u0219i dureaz\u0103 mai mult de \u0219ase luni, este cazul s\u0103 cerem ajutorul unui specialist. A\u0219a a procedat \u0219i Alexandra, o t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 de 27 de ani din Cluj, care s-a adresat la psiholog atunci c\u00e2nd frica ei de a nu reu\u0219i \u00een via\u021b\u0103 s-a transformat \u00eentr-o anxietate constant\u0103. Se \u00eent\u00e2mpla acum c\u00e2\u021biva ani, c\u00e2nd g\u0103sise jobul perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Alexandra, 27 de ani, Cluj: \u201e<\/strong>Practic, pentru orice gre\u0219eal\u0103 de editare pe care am f\u0103cut-o din lips\u0103 de experien\u021b\u0103, se urla la mine zilnic, efectiv persoanei i se umflau venele de pe g\u00e2t de c\u00e2t de tare urla \u0219i aveam senza\u021bia c\u0103 tremur\u0103 geamurile. Cresc\u00e2nd \u00eentr-o familie unde scandalul \u0219i abuzul emo\u021bional erau la ordinea zilei, m-au <em>triggeruit <\/em>(m-au provocat \u2013 trad. engl.) aceste comportamente \u0219i frica \u0219i anxietatea m\u0103 cople\u0219eau \u0219i nu puteam s\u0103 fac altceva dec\u00e2t s\u0103 stau \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eenghit.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Terapia pentru anxietate a ajutat-o pe Alexandra s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 are o voce \u0219i trebuie s\u0103 lupte pentru ea \u00eens\u0103\u0219i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Alexandra, 27 de ani, Cluj:<\/strong> \u201eM-am sim\u021bit \u00eencurajat\u0103 de terapie \u0219i am \u00eenceput la serviciu s\u0103 comentez \u00eenapoi, s\u0103 m\u0103 ap\u0103r \u0219i s\u0103 lupt pentru valorile mele \u0219i s\u0103 cer respect. La scurt timp dup\u0103 ce am \u00eenceput aceste mici lupte, mi-am dat demisia.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Alexandra spune c\u0103 \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 \u00een fiecare zi s\u0103-\u0219i \u00eenfrunte frica astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 n-o opreasc\u0103 din a-\u0219i urma visele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eDac\u0103 \u00eenainte frica m\u0103 cople\u0219ea \u0219i m\u0103 blocam ca o c\u0103prioar\u0103 \u00een fa\u021ba unei ma\u0219ini, acum, de\u015fi o simt \u00eenc\u0103 \u00een fiecare zi, \u00eencerc s\u0103 o ascult \u0219i s\u0103 o \u00een\u021beleg \u0219i \u00eencerc mereu s\u0103 g\u0103sesc curajul s\u0103 merg \u00eenainte cu frica de bra\u021b.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><cite><strong>Alexandra, 27 de ani, Cluj<\/strong><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Este foarte bine s\u0103 vorbim despre fricile noastre, spun psihologii. Dac\u0103 un om apropiat ne ascult\u0103 \u0219i ne valideaz\u0103 emo\u021biile, ne sim\u021bim mai pu\u021bin singuri. Din nou, Ina Crasnojon:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ina Crasnojon:<\/strong> \u201eCu c\u00e2t mai mult ascundem o traum\u0103 a noastr\u0103, o problem\u0103 a noastr\u0103, o fric\u0103 pe care o avem, noi o men\u021binem \u00een interiorul nostru, dar ea se amplific\u0103, ea cre\u0219te, a\u0219a cum am umfla un balon din \u0103sta care, \u00eentr-un final, oricum bufne\u0219te.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"De ce ne este fric\u0103 | Sunt Bine Podcast\" width=\"825\" height=\"464\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/64gP5_Z1f2Q?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Petru are 46 de ani, locuie\u0219te la Chi\u0219in\u0103u \u0219i spune c\u0103 a avut mai multe frici pe parcursul vie\u021bii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Petru, 46 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong>\u201eAcuma, mai nou, cea mai recent\u0103 fric\u0103 pe care am avut-o e cea pe care am con\u0219tientizat-o acum 4-5 luni, care cred c\u0103 reprezint\u0103 cumva v\u00e2rsta prin care trec. Aveam atunci 45, acum am 46 deja, deci un fel de criz\u0103 de cvadragenar. Mi-am dat seama c\u0103 via\u021ba trece repede. E un cli\u0219eu, dar mi-am dat seama c\u0103 acum zece ani eu aveam 35, abia sus\u021binusem doctoratul \u0219i m\u0103 sim\u021beam cumva pe val. Am avut frica asta c\u0103 exact a\u0219a cum au trecut \u0103\u0219tia zece ani, urm\u0103torii zece s-ar putea s\u0103 treac\u0103 la fel de repede sau poate \u0219i mai repede. Am un fel de fric\u0103 de a nu putea s\u0103 las ceva \u00een spatele meu, ceva valoros, ceva care s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103. \u0218tiu c\u0103 atunci i-am scris despre sentimentele astea ale mele celui mai bun prieten, care are, de altfel, aceea\u0219i v\u00e2rst\u0103 ca \u0219i mine, \u0219i m-a sunat \u0219i atunci am discutat cumva a\u0219a, prietene\u0219te, despre criza asta cvadragenar\u0103 prin care eu acum se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 s\u0103 trec. Concluzia la care eu personal am ajuns este c\u0103 nu e at\u00e2t de vorba de cantitate, adic\u0103 de num\u0103rul de ani pe care noi \u00eei tr\u0103im, ci prin calitatea lor.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Un studiu realizat de <a href=\"http:\/\/consulting.md\/rom\/statistici-si-publicatii\/fobiile-moldovenilor\">Magenta Consulting<\/a> \u00een 2011 exploreaz\u0103 fobiile moldovenilor. Raportul constat\u0103 c\u0103 74% din responden\u021bi au cel pu\u021bin o fric\u0103. Datele Asocia\u021biei Americane de Psihiatrie arat\u0103 c\u0103 femeile sunt de dou\u0103 ori mai afectate de temeri dec\u00e2t b\u0103rba\u021bii. Diferen\u021be apar la capitolul tipului de frici. Teama de fiin\u021be, de fenomene naturale \u0219i de situa\u021bii specifice predomin\u0103 la femei, iar cea de s\u00e2nge, injec\u021bii sau de v\u0103t\u0103mare corporal\u0103 este tr\u0103it\u0103 de ambele sexe \u00een mod egal.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Experien\u021ba acestui episod confirm\u0103, oarecum, acest lucru. Inbox-ul nostru s-a umplut de \u00eensemn\u0103ri \u0219i document\u0103ri ale fricilor trimise de femei, b\u0103rba\u021bii \u00eens\u0103 au fost mai greu de convins. Chiar \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd vor s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 deschis despre tr\u0103irile lor, ei g\u0103sesc mai greu limbajul potrivit. \u0218i totu\u0219i, cu to\u021bii sim\u021bim. Cele \u0219ase emo\u021bii sunt \u00een vocabularul fiec\u0103rei persoane. \u00cen acest caz, ce-i \u00eempiedic\u0103 pe b\u0103rba\u021bi s\u0103 le exprime? Normele sociale impuse de mediul \u00een care au crescut, afirm\u0103 Ina Crasnojon.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201eDac\u0103 privim un pic pe termen \u00eendelungat, b\u0103rba\u021bii care camufleaz\u0103 emo\u021bia de fric\u0103, o ascund, au de suferit, pentru c\u0103 deja noi vedem, statistica ne arat\u0103 c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u021bii sunt cei care recurg mult mai des la suicid. Sunt foarte mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi care dezvolt\u0103 psihoze, nevroze, dar ei nu vor s\u0103 recunoasc\u0103 c\u0103 este din cauza c\u0103, uite, eu nu am \u0219tiut s\u0103-mi gestionez emo\u021biile, mi-a fost ru\u0219ine s\u0103 spun c\u0103 mie \u00eemi este fric\u0103.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><cite><strong>Ina Crasnojon<\/strong>, psiholog<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i fiindc\u0103 e important s\u0103 vorbim despre fricile noastre, vrem s\u0103 v\u0103 spunem un pic despre noi.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Natalia<\/strong>: \u201eMi-e fric\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 aflu \u00een mijlocul unor mase largi de oameni, din care s\u0103 nu pot ie\u0219i. Mi-am dat seama de aceast\u0103 fric\u0103 \u00eentr-o scurt\u0103 vizit\u0103 la Kiev, \u00een urm\u0103 cu mai mul\u021bi ani. Era, de fapt, \u0219i prima mea c\u0103l\u0103torie cu metroul. Sta\u021bia la care trebuia s\u0103 ies era Maidan Nezalejnosti, adic\u0103 Pia\u021ba Independen\u021bei. Nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 cineva dintre ascult\u0103tori a fost vreodat\u0103 acolo, dar e o sta\u021bie uria\u0219\u0103, cel pu\u021bin, a\u0219a mi-a p\u0103rut mie. E foarte ad\u00e2nc\u0103 \u0219i are o singur\u0103 ie\u0219ire. Era o sear\u0103 de decembrie geros, c\u0103l\u0103torii se gr\u0103beau s\u0103 ajung\u0103 pe la casele lor&#8230; C\u00e2nd am ie\u0219it din tren, aceast\u0103 mare de oameni, pur \u0219i simplu, m-a luat cu ea. \u021ain minte cum picioarele mi se mi\u0219cau f\u0103r\u0103 voie \u00eenainte, iar eu ridicam capul spre podul tunelului \u0219i c\u0103utam aer, fiindc\u0103 sim\u021beam c\u0103 m\u0103 sufoc. Credeam c\u0103 nu mai ajungem la ie\u0219ire&#8230; Chiar \u0219i ridicarea pe scara rulant\u0103 a durat o ve\u0219nicie. \u00centr-un final, am ie\u0219it din metrou chiar \u00een mijlocul pie\u021bei, care era ocupat\u0103 de protestatarii Euromaidanului, de\u0219i deja se \u00eennoptase. Cred c\u0103 surpriza de la vederea protestatarilor \u0219i aerul r\u0103coros m-au adus cu picioarele pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt \u0219i mi-am revenit. Chiar \u0219i acum \u00eemi amintesc de panica aia din metrou, dar, \u00een mod curios, nu am mai sim\u021bit-o \u00een subterane, poate fiindc\u0103 le-am \u00eendr\u0103git mult de atunci. M-a speriat, cred, lipsa controlului, c\u0103 nu \u0219tiam unde m\u0103 duce marea aia de corpuri, aflat\u0103 la zeci de metri sub p\u0103m\u00e2nt. E o fric\u0103 un pic ridicol\u0103 pentru o jurnalist\u0103, fiindc\u0103 nu o dat\u0103 am relatat din mijlocul unor proteste. Totu\u0219i nu pot s\u0103 zic c\u0103 asta m-a \u00eempiedicat vreodat\u0103 s\u0103 lucrez, dimpotriv\u0103, cred c\u0103 aceast\u0103 experien\u021b\u0103 m-a f\u0103cut mai atent\u0103 la \u00eemprejurimile mele. Nu intru \u00een mijlocul unui grup mare de manifestan\u021bi f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 am un plan de ie\u0219ire, iar dac\u0103 ajung s\u0103 fiu dus\u0103 totu\u0219i de valul de oameni, am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 respir \u0219i s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n calm\u0103. Apropo, exact dup\u0103 ce am plecat spre Chi\u0219in\u0103u, au \u00eenceput violen\u021bele pe Maidan. A\u0219a c\u0103 putea fi mai r\u0103u.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Victoria<\/strong>: \u201eMie \u00eemi este fric\u0103 s\u0103 zbor. Acest sentiment s-a strecurat \u00een via\u021ba mea \u00een ultimii ani \u0219i n-a fost provocat de nicio experien\u021b\u0103 traumatizant\u0103. Acum mi se pare de necrezut c\u0103 la 18 ani zburam f\u0103r\u0103 nicio grij\u0103 spre Filipine, unde urma s\u0103 particip la o conferin\u021b\u0103. Acum, aproape zece ani mai t\u00e2rziu, situa\u021bia e complet diferit\u0103. M\u0103 preg\u0103tesc mental de zbor cu vreo dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni \u00eenainte. \u00cen ziua c\u0103l\u0103toriei, verific \u00eentotdeauna vremea de afar\u0103, viteza v\u00e2ntului \u0219i m\u0103 \u00eentreb: o s\u0103 poat\u0103, oare, zbura avionul \u00een timp ce plou\u0103 a\u0219a m\u0103runt afar\u0103? \u00cen timpul zborului, ascult cu aten\u021bie mesajele c\u0103pitanului, m\u0103 uit minu\u021bios la fe\u021bele \u00eenso\u021bitorilor de bord \u0219i, \u00een momentele de maxim\u0103 anxietate, sunt convins\u0103 c\u0103-mi ascund ceva \u0219i c\u0103 asta e, nu se mai poate face nimic. Ador momentul c\u00e2nd ro\u021bile avionului ating p\u0103m\u00e2ntul, am senza\u021bia c\u0103 mi-a dat cineva a doua \u0219ans\u0103 la via\u021b\u0103. Aceast\u0103 emo\u021bie de recuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 nu dureaz\u0103 prea mult, ca \u0219i \u00een cazul multor altor lucruri, pe care le lu\u0103m de-a gata, <em>for granted<\/em>.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Fiecare persoan\u0103 care ne-a dest\u0103inuit fricile sale ne-a ajutat s\u0103 document\u0103m acest episod. V\u0103 mul\u021bumim: Alexandra, Cristi, Diana, Valeria, Alex, Anna, Aurelia, Ana-Maria, Alexandru, Ecaterina, Andrei, Inesa, Maxim, Anastasia, Iulia, M\u0103d\u0103lina, Petru, Sorin, Vitalie \u0219i Teodora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Te l\u0103s\u0103m s\u0103 ascul\u021bi c\u00e2teva cr\u00e2mpeie din ceea ce ne-au povestit. Sper\u0103m c\u0103 te vei reg\u0103si \u0219i vei prinde curaj s\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti despre frici, a\u0219a cum au f\u0103cut-o ei.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Anna, 31 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eUna din cele mai vechi frici ale mele este frica de \u00eentuneric.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Cristi, 21 de ani, B\u0103l\u021bi: <\/strong><em>\u201e\u0218i av\u00e2nd aceast\u0103 fric\u0103, m\u0103 temeam s\u0103 m\u0103 duc noaptea dintr-o camer\u0103 \u00een alta sau la buc\u0103t\u0103rie ca s\u0103-mi iau ap\u0103 s\u0103 beau, sau la baie. Alteori, acest lucru m\u0103 \u00eempiedica s\u0103 ies seara cu prietenii sau s\u0103 fiu cu ei noaptea, prin ora\u0219.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Inesa, 54 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eAcum, nu zic c\u0103 merg noaptea pe o strad\u0103 \u00eentunecoas\u0103 \u0219i sunt singur\u0103 nu mi-e fric\u0103, dar, cu siguran\u021b\u0103, nu de for\u021be supranaturale, dar mai degrab\u0103 m-a\u0219 teme de oamenii r\u0103i.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Maxim, 18 ani, Drochia: <\/strong><em>\u201eCea mai mare fric\u0103 a mea este frica de a nu reu\u0219i ceva ce mi-am pus \u00een g\u00e2nd.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Alina, 26 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201e\u021ain minte cum la liceu eram o elev\u0103 care \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba foarte mult, iar de multe ori ajungeam acas\u0103 \u0219i, din frica de a nu face fa\u021b\u0103, sufeream, efectiv pl\u00e2ngeam.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>M\u0103d\u0103lina, 17 ani, \u0218old\u0103ne\u0219ti:<\/strong> <em>\u201eEra clasa a 9-a, fiind la Olimpiada Republican\u0103 de Limb\u0103 \u0219i Literatur\u0103 Rom\u00e2n\u0103, proba oral\u0103. De\u0219i cu siguran\u021b\u0103 aveam ce spune, nu am putut finaliza discursul.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Anastasia, 28 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eO alt\u0103 fric\u0103 este frica de spa\u021biile \u00eenchise. De\u0219i este o banalitate, tr\u0103iesc o adev\u0103rat\u0103 dram\u0103 \u00een momentul \u00een care ajung \u00eentr-un lift sau m\u0103 pomenesc \u00eentr-o camer\u0103 mic\u0103, \u00een care trebuie s\u0103 stau de una singur\u0103, s\u0103 a\u0219tept.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Aurelia, 35 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u:<\/strong> <em>\u201eUna din fricile mele constante din ultimii opt ani, de c\u00e2nd am devenit mam\u0103, este legat\u0103 de copii. Teama c\u0103 ar putea s\u0103 li se \u00eent\u00e2mple ceva, legat de s\u0103n\u0103tatea lor, de integritatea lor fizic\u0103. De exemplu acum, la \u00eenceputul pandemiei \u0219i carantinei, mi s-a acutizat foarte mult aceast\u0103 fric\u0103. M\u0103 trezeam noaptea \u00een palpita\u021bii, transpirat\u0103, anxioas\u0103.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Diana, 28 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201eUna din fricile pe care le am \u0219i pe care o simt mai des \u00een ultimele c\u00e2teva s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni e frica s\u0103 fiu neinteresant\u0103 pentru persoana care-mi pare interesant\u0103 mie. Mi-e fric\u0103 c\u0103 toate lucrurile care m\u0103 fac pe mine atractiv\u0103 \u00een perioada incipient\u0103 de comunicare, precum umorul sau autoironia sau anumite interese ale mele, nu vor fi destule \u0219i vor fi nesemnificative \u00een viitor.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Vitalie, 41 de ani, Chi\u0219in\u0103u: <\/strong><em>\u201e\u00cen fine, \u00een ultimul timp am \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc \u0219i la moarte, \u0219i la pensie. Am sentimentul c\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 nu am reu\u0219it s\u0103 fac tot ce mi-am propus \u0219i de asta nu mi se poate \u00eent\u00e2mpla nimic. Deocamdat\u0103, cel pu\u021bin. Exact acest sentiment \u0219i aceast\u0103 fraz\u0103 le-am spus familiei acum doi ani \u00een avionul care revenea de pe insula Creta \u0219i care a avut ceva defec\u021biuni ciudate \u0219i a revenit \u00een Heraklion, c\u00e2nd \u00een salon \u00eencepuse s\u0103 ias\u0103 fum sau aburi, motoarele se opreau \u0219i c\u0103deam \u00een gol, intrasem cu to\u021bii \u00een panic\u0103, \u00eens\u0103 deasupra la tot plutea g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 totul se va termina cu bine, \u00eenc\u0103 nu e momentul. C\u0103 nu voi sc\u0103pa a\u0219a u\u0219or de via\u021ba asta.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Teodora, 18 ani, Orhei: <\/strong><em>\u201eUna dintre cele mai mari frici ale mele este teama de a fi refuzat\u0103. La 14 ani am f\u0103cut prima c\u0103utare pe Google, am vrut s\u0103 aflu cum pot sc\u0103pa de d\u00e2nsa, \u00eens\u0103 am g\u0103sit doar articole despre frica b\u0103ie\u021bilor de a face cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 cu o fat\u0103 frumoas\u0103 \u0219i c\u00e2teva citate numai bune de distribuit pe Facebook. \u201eF\u0103 lucrurile de care te temi \u0219i teama va pieri\u201d. Hm, frumos citat, \u00eens\u0103 mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t &#8211; nu. Cu timpul, frica te absoarbe, a devenit ceva absolut normal, a\u0219a sunt eu. P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi c\u00e2nd m-au refuzat 50 de persoane. Eram la primul meu serviciu, func\u021bia &#8211; contabil\u0103. Trebuia s\u0103 fac acte de verificare, adic\u0103 s\u0103 telefonez contabilii \u0219i s\u0103 verific\u0103m soldurile. Am zis c\u0103 voi fi amabil\u0103, \u00eens\u0103 r\u0103spunsul era cam acela\u0219i: \u201eNu, nu pot acum, sunt ocupat\u0103\u201d. Dup\u0103 40 de \u201enu, sunt ocupat\u0103\u201d, realizezi c\u0103 deja te-ai f\u0103cut de ru\u0219ine at\u00e2t de mult c\u0103 nu mai conteaz\u0103 dac\u0103 te vor refuza sau vor accepta \u0219i asta mi-a dat curaj. M-am g\u00e2ndit mult dup\u0103 asta la ceea ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u0219i am \u00eencercat s\u0103 g\u0103sesc cuvintele potrivite pentru a descrie. \u0218i atunci m-am \u00eentors la acel citat frumos, de acum patru ani: \u201ef\u0103 lucrurile de care te temi \u0219i teama va pieri\u201d<\/em>.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Acest episod a fost realizat cu sprijinul&nbsp;<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eda.admin.ch\/countries\/moldova\/ro\/home\/reprezentantse\/cooperare.html\" target=\"_blank\">Biroului de cooperare al Elve\u021biei \u00een Republica Moldova<\/a>. 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