{"id":1362,"date":"2020-11-18T22:08:47","date_gmt":"2020-11-18T22:08:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/?post_type=episode&#038;p=1362"},"modified":"2021-01-15T17:57:29","modified_gmt":"2021-01-15T17:57:29","slug":"8-viata-dupa-moarte-ii","status":"publish","type":"episode","link":"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/?episode=8-viata-dupa-moarte-ii","title":{"rendered":"#8 Via\u021ba dup\u0103 moarte (II)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><em>Aboneaz\u0103-te la podcastul \u201eSunt Bine\u201d \u0219i las\u0103-ne o recomandare! \ud83c\udf1f<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--1\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-vivid-purple-color has-text-color wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/sunt-bine-podcast\/id1505037113\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Apple Podcasts<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--2\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-vivid-red-color has-text-color wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.google.com\/feed\/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xODdiMzE5MC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Google Podcasts<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--3\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-vivid-green-cyan-color has-text-color wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0uzfEeaELxUIpQHnyF7TrL\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Spotify<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">Cu trei ani \u00een urm\u0103, pe 16 decembrie, la intersec\u021bia str\u0103zilor \u0218tefan cel Mare \u0219i Alecsandri din Chi\u015fin\u0103u, dou\u0103 perechi de ochi s-au \u00eent\u00e2lnit. Eugeniu \u0219i Cristina st\u0103teau \u00een r\u00e2nd la bancomat. Deasupra lor se \u00eentindea un cer gri, v\u00e2ntul li se strecura pe sub gecile de iarn\u0103. Coada p\u0103rea interminabil\u0103, iar oamenii \u2013 tot mai zgribuli\u021bi.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Cristina: <\/strong>\u201eS-a uitat la mine, a z\u00e2mbit, oarecum s-a apropiat, s-a prezentat, m-am prezentat \u0219i eu \u0219i a\u0219a a \u00eenceput discu\u021bia noastr\u0103.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Eugeniu:<\/strong> \u201eEu am zis: \u201eSalut!\u201d, la care Cristina mi-a r\u0103spuns: \u201eSalut, dar noi ne cunoa\u0219tem?\u201d. La care eu am spus: \u201eNu, dar putem face cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cu m\u00e2inile \u00eenghe\u021bate \u00een buzunare, tinerii s-au \u00eendreptat spre cea mai apropiat\u0103 cafenea. Au vorbit ore \u00een \u0219ir, sorbind b\u0103uturi fierbin\u021bi. Cristina a aflat c\u0103 t\u00e2n\u0103rul \u0219aten este de meserie psihiatru, specializat \u00een adic\u021bii. Eugeniu a descoperit c\u0103 fata cu z\u00e2mbet cald pe care tocmai o cunoscuse lucreaz\u0103 \u00eentr-un ONG de media. Ambii au \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 s-au \u00eendr\u0103gostit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rela\u021bia a evoluat rapid. Tinerii \u00ee\u0219i petreceau serile \u00eempreun\u0103. \u00cen zilele de weekend, mergeau la teatru sau la restaurant. Vorbeau despre filme, muzic\u0103 \u0219i istorie, o pasiune comun\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><strong>Cristina: <\/strong>\u201eEra o persoan\u0103 cu care \u00eemi era u\u0219or s\u0103 comunic \u0219i m\u0103 sim\u021beam bine, adic\u0103 nu trebuia s\u0103 fiu altcineva, da? Adic\u0103, erai a\u0219a cum e\u0219ti tu.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Peste c\u00e2teva luni, \u00eentr-un restaurant din capital\u0103, Eugeniu \u0219i Cristina au luat \u00eempreun\u0103 o decizie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Eugeniu: <\/strong>\u201eDeja ambii aveam un lucru \u00een spate, o carier\u0103, ni\u0219te studii \u0219i deja ne doream altceva. Deja ne doream o familie. Am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 Cristina este acea persoan\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103 cu care pot \u00eentemeia o familie.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen vara urm\u0103toare, Cristina \u0219i-a ales un inel de logodn\u0103. Tinerii s-au mutat \u00eempreun\u0103 \u0219i, cu sprijinul p\u0103rin\u021bilor, s-au apucat de organizarea nun\u021bii.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Era o zi de toamn\u0103 aurie, 2018. Eugeniu \u0219i-a prins c\u00e2teva flori la butonier\u0103 \u0219i \u015fi-a legat papionul la g\u00e2t. Cristina a \u00eembr\u0103cat o rochie dantelat\u0103 \u0219i a fixat voalul de p\u0103rul brunet, aranjat cu grij\u0103. Dou\u0103 sute de invita\u021bi au venit la un restaurant din Chi\u0219in\u0103u s\u0103 s\u0103rb\u0103toreasc\u0103 al\u0103turi de tineri ziua care le va r\u0103m\u00e2ne \u00een memorie pentru totdeauna. Sala era decorat\u0103 cu flori albe, care se asortau cu fe\u021bele de mas\u0103. Localul era ne\u00eenc\u0103p\u0103tor pentru oaspe\u021bii care au dansat p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een zori.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pe notele piesei \u201e<em>When You Tell Me That You Love Me<\/em>\u201d de Julio Iglesias \u0219i Dolly Parton, cuplul a dansat un vals vienez. Perechea glisa prin nori de fum alb. Oaspe\u021bii strigau \u201eAmar\u201d \u0219i cei doi au cedat.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Cristina<\/strong>: \u201eC\u00e2nd, poate, ne sim\u021bim a\u0219a, mai melancolici, spunem hai s\u0103 dans\u0103m dansul \u0103la al nostru. Chiar dac\u0103 acum toate mi\u0219c\u0103rile nu le mai \u021binem minte exact, sut\u0103 la sut\u0103, dar cel pu\u021bin \u00eenceputul este \u0219i \u0103sta este un moment foarte pl\u0103cut, care ne aminte\u0219te, de fapt, de acea perioad\u0103.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eugeniu \u0219i Cristina au avut o nunt\u0103 tradi\u021bional\u0103: mare, g\u0103l\u0103gioas\u0103 \u0219i plin\u0103 de veselie. Pe videoul de la nunt\u0103, p\u0103rin\u021bii ambilor tineri erau vizibil \u00eenduio\u0219a\u021bi. Tat\u0103l lui Eugeniu &#8211; Adrian &#8211; era obi\u0219nuit s\u0103 aib\u0103 un discurs preg\u0103tit \u00een fa\u021ba studen\u021bilor, dar acum c\u0103uta cuvintele potrivite.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><em><strong>Adrian<\/strong>: \u201eSunt emo\u021bionat. Am ajuns \u00een aceast\u0103 sear\u0103, \u00een acest moment, c\u00e2nd fiul meu creeaz\u0103 o familie&#8230; \u0218i sunt foarte bucuros c\u0103 a g\u0103sit a\u0219a o parte a vie\u021bii lui &#8211; Cristina, pe care o are de so\u021bie de azi \u00eenainte.\u201d <\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Mama Cristinei &#8211; Elena &#8211; nici sub presiunea momentului nu a uitat de priorit\u0103\u021bi&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Elena<\/strong>: \u201eLe doresc la b\u0103ie\u021bi s\u0103n\u0103tate, realiz\u0103ri mari \u00een via\u021b\u0103. B\u0103ie\u021bi, eu a\u0219tept de la voi&#8230; S\u0103 v\u0103 iubi\u021bi neamul \u0219i \u021bara. \u0218i s\u0103&#8230; nepo\u021bi c\u00e2t mai mul\u021bi!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Dup\u0103 nunt\u0103, via\u021ba cuplului redevenise un cotidian obi\u0219nuit. Cristina \u0219i Eugeniu mergeau la munc\u0103. Seara sau \u00een weekend, \u00ee\u0219i vizitau p\u0103rin\u021bii, care locuiau aproape. Asta au f\u0103cut \u0219i \u00eentr-o zi de duminic\u0103, la sf\u00e2r\u0219it de ianuarie, anul trecut, c\u00e2nd mama Cristinei g\u0103tise o zeam\u0103 aromat\u0103, cu pui \u0219i t\u0103i\u021bei. Familia a stat la mas\u0103, ne\u0219tiind c\u0103 \u00een c\u00e2teva zile via\u021ba lor avea s\u0103 se schimbe fundamental. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"3543\" height=\"3543\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1387\"\/><figcaption>Ilustra\u021bie: Ana Grigorovscaia<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Cristina:<\/strong> \u201eS-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat luni, ei i s-a f\u0103cut r\u0103u \u0219i marele meu regret e c\u0103 \u00een acea zi, surprinz\u0103tor, eu m\u0103 g\u00e2ndeam diminea\u021ba s\u0103 o sun, dar apoi am zis: ei, m\u0103 duc repede la lucru, o s\u0103 avem \u0219edin\u021b\u0103, una-alta, o sun dup\u0103-amiaz\u0103&#8230; \u015ei n-am apucat s\u0103 o sun \u0219i nici mama mea nu m-a sunat. \u0218i abia dup\u0103-amiaz\u0103, la orele 4:00, m-a sunat tat\u0103l meu \u0219i mi-a zis: uite, mama e \u00een spital \u0219i va fi operat\u0103.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mama Cristinei suferise un atac de cord. Starea ei era grav\u0103, dar stabil\u0103. A doua zi \u00eens\u0103 Elena a intrat \u00een com\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><strong>Cristina:<\/strong> \u201eEra o lovitur\u0103 din asta foarte dur\u0103, parc\u0103 tr\u0103iai \u00eentr-o realitate&nbsp; suprarealist\u0103, creierul meu refuza, efectiv, s\u0103 accepte aceste evenimente, aceste ve\u0219ti, aceste informa\u021bii.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Medicii au anun\u021bat familia c\u0103 starea Elenei continu\u0103 s\u0103 se agraveze. Spre sear\u0103, Eugeniu a decis s\u0103-\u0219i viziteze tat\u0103l, s\u0103-i povesteasc\u0103 ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Eugeniu:<\/strong> \u201eC\u00e2nd am venit acas\u0103, fratele meu era la buc\u0103t\u0103rie \u0219i, pentru c\u0103 el credea \u0219i eu credeam c\u0103 tat\u0103l, pur \u0219i simplu, doarme, \u0219i c\u00e2nd am intrat la el \u00een camer\u0103 ca s\u0103-i zic c\u0103 posibil s\u0103 fie o tragedie, posibil c\u0103 soacra va muri, \u0219i c\u00e2nd am venit la el, am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 el era mort.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Adrian, tat\u0103l lui Eugeniu, decedase \u00een urma unui atac de cord. Avea 54 de ani.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Cristina: <\/strong>\u201e\u0218i \u021bin minte cum m-am trezit joi diminea\u021ba, era diminea\u021b\u0103, deja \u0219tiam c\u0103 socrul meu a decedat \u0219i mergeam la spital s\u0103 o v\u0103d pe mama. \u0218i era diminea\u021b\u0103, era la ora 9.00 diminea\u021ba, atunci medicii ne-au permis s\u0103 intr\u0103m, s\u0103 o vedem. Atunci a fost ultima dac\u0103 c\u00e2nd am v\u0103zut-o. \u0218i peste dou\u0103 ore a decedat.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen 24 de ore, Cristina \u0219i Eugeniu au pierdut c\u00e2te un p\u0103rinte. Durerea nu avea margini, nu putea fi pus\u0103 \u00een cuvinte, nu putea fi pl\u00e2ns\u0103. I-a l\u0103sat \u0219oca\u021bi, mu\u021bi, neputincio\u0219i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Elena s-a c\u0103s\u0103torit t\u00e2rziu dup\u0103 r\u00e2nduiala acelor vremuri. Din capul locului \u0219i-a propus ca fiica ei s\u0103 aib\u0103 o copil\u0103rie lini\u0219tit\u0103, \u00eentr-o familie armonioas\u0103. C\u00e2nd vedea c\u0103 Cristina \u00eent\u00e2mpin\u0103 dificult\u0103\u021bi la \u0219coal\u0103, \u00eei oferea o m\u00e2n\u0103 de ajutor sau un sfat potrivit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><strong>Cristina<\/strong>: <\/strong>\u201e\u00cen anul \u00een care ea a decedat, avea planificat\u0103 o vacan\u021b\u0103 de ziua ei, ea trebuia s\u0103 mearg\u0103 \u00een Copenhaga \u0219i zicea: \u201eA\u0219a a\u0219tept de mult aceast\u0103 c\u0103l\u0103torie, a\u0219a de mult o a\u0219tept\u201d. \u0218i nu a reu\u0219it s\u0103 ajung\u0103 \u00een acea c\u0103l\u0103torie&#8230;\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Via\u021ba dup\u0103 moartea unei persoane dragi | SUNT BINE Podcast\" width=\"825\" height=\"464\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Cw1qJ3G7r1I?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Starea de \u0219oc provocat\u0103 de pierderea mamei nu o p\u0103r\u0103sea pe Cristina nici dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni. A \u00eenceput s\u0103 doarm\u0103 tot mai pu\u021bin \u0219i s\u0103 se trezeasc\u0103 tot mai devreme. Era stresat\u0103 \u00eencontinuu. Sim\u021bea cum corpul \u00eei este \u00eencordat ca o strun\u0103.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><strong>Cristina<\/strong><\/strong>: \u201eEu la \u00eenmorm\u00e2ntare eram amor\u021bit\u0103, \u00een stare de \u0219oc, \u0219i nu am pl\u00e2ns deloc, absolut deloc. \u0218i eu foarte mult timp nu am putut s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng. Eu am \u00eenceput s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng dup\u0103 o perioad\u0103 foarte \u00eendelungat\u0103 de timp. S\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 corpul t\u0103u \u0219tie s\u0103 proceseze aceste emo\u021bii.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Doliul e o reac\u021bie pe care o dezvolt\u0103m la o pierdere, fie c\u0103 e vorba de o persoan\u0103 sau de un obiect cu valoare sentimental\u0103, spune Jana Chihai, consultant superior \u00een s\u0103n\u0103tate mintal\u0103 comunitar\u0103 \u00een cadrul proiectului Mensana \u0219i coordonatoarea Programului Na\u021bional de S\u0103n\u0103tate Mintal\u0103. Dac\u0103 a\u021bi ascultat episodul nostru precedent, cunoa\u0219te\u021bi c\u0103 este un proces individual, prin care fiecare trece \u00een felul s\u0103u.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><strong>Jana Chihai<\/strong>: \u201eDoliul, la propriu, nu este un diagnostic de s\u0103n\u0103tate mintal\u0103, nu este o problem\u0103 de s\u0103n\u0103tate mintal\u0103, este o situa\u021bie, dac\u0103 a\u0219 putea s\u0103 zic a\u0219a, normal\u0103 pe care noi o dezvolt\u0103m atunci c\u00e2nd avem o pierdere.\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Cristina \u00eencerca s\u0103 proceseze ceea ce sim\u021bea, ad\u00e2ncindu-se \u00een munc\u0103. \u00cens\u0103 tensiunea pe care o sim\u021bea \u00een tot corpul se men\u021binea. \u00cen aprilie, lucrurile au derapat.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><strong>Cristina<\/strong><\/strong>: \u201e\u0218i \u00eentr-o sear\u0103, la ora 12 noaptea, mi s-a f\u0103cut r\u0103u, dar r\u0103u-r\u0103u, cu o durere foarte mare \u00een piept, \u0219i repede am chemat ambulan\u021ba, ambulan\u021ba a venit. EI s-a uitat la mine foarte ciudat, mi-a zis: \u201eUnde te doare? Regiunea pieptului, inima?\u201d. Era partea st\u00e2ng\u0103 \u0219i a\u0219a s-a uitat, a \u00eentrebat \u201eC\u00e2\u021bi ani ai?\u201d. Am zis 30, 31 de ani.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Medicul a ridicat spr\u00e2ncenele \u0219i a decis s\u0103 cheme echipa de cardiologi.<strong> <\/strong>\u00centre timp, inima Cristinei continua s\u0103 bat\u0103 cu putere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><strong>Cristina<\/strong><\/strong>: \u201eMi-au mai f\u0103cut ni\u0219te proceduri \u0219i mi-au f\u0103cut o perfuzie \u0219i mi s-a f\u0103cut mai bine. Dar mi-au zis: \u201eDu-te la medic. \u0218i vezi ce probleme de s\u0103n\u0103tate ai, pentru c\u0103 tu ai\u201d. \u00cen mod normal asta nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cristina a trecut printr-un episod de \u0219oc aritmic \u2013 consecin\u021b\u0103 a unei alte probleme de s\u0103n\u0103tate. Spune c\u0103 starea i s-a agravat anume dup\u0103 pierderea mamei. Jana Chihai explic\u0103 aceast\u0103 reac\u021bie \u00een termeni \u0219tiin\u021bifici.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Jana Chihai:<\/strong> \u201eOrice suferin\u021b\u0103, fric\u0103 sau m\u00e2nie mobilizeaz\u0103 \u00eentreg corpul. Noi nu r\u0103spundem doar cu mintea, ci la mobilizarea corpului este \u00eentotdeauna o \u00eencordare muscular\u0103, care ar putea s\u0103 creeze ni\u0219te disconforturi, ar putea s\u0103 ne provoace unele dureri. Dac\u0103 mai avem \u0219i ceva predispozi\u021bii, am putea s\u0103 agrav\u0103m ni\u0219te comorbidit\u0103\u021bi pe care le avem. Deci, specific pentru doliu nu exist\u0103 aceste simptome somatice, adic\u0103 corporale, dar \u00eentotdeauna va fi ceva, o parte a corpului sau o durere corporal\u0103, care va suferi cu noi \u00eempreun\u0103 doliul.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i Eugeniu era r\u0103v\u0103\u0219it de triste\u021be. Tat\u0103l lui, conferen\u021biar universitar \u0219i medic epidemiolog, a fost pentru el un mentor \u0219i o autoritate, un om onest \u0219i de\u0219tept, \u00eendr\u0103git de studen\u021bi.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Eugeniu: <\/strong>\u201eDe aceea mul\u021bi mizau pe autoritatea lui, pe de\u0219tept\u0103ciunea lui \u0219i de aceea mul\u021bi studen\u021bi veneau la el s\u0103 se consulte referitor la diferite \u00eentreb\u0103ri pe care le aveau \u0219i primeau un sfat prietenos.\u201d &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pierderea lui a l\u0103sat un gol imens, pe care Eugen a \u00eencercat s\u0103-l umple cu munc\u0103. S-a apucat de studierea intensiv\u0103 a limbii engleze pentru examenul TOEFL \u0219i de preg\u0103tirea dosarului pentru bursa Humphrey din programul Fulbright.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><strong>Eugeniu: <\/strong>\u201eE\u0219ti concentrat pe munc\u0103 \u0219i nu te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti la triste\u021bea pe care o ai. \u00cen acela\u0219i timp, vreau s\u0103 zic c\u0103 pe mine personal, <em>background<\/em>-ul meu medical m-a ajutat foarte mult s\u0103 trec peste etapa de doliu.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Eugeniu \u0219tia c\u00e2t de important este \u00een doliu s\u0103 \u00eencerci, cel pu\u021bin, s\u0103 duci un mod s\u0103n\u0103tos de via\u021b\u0103, fapt confirmat de experta Jana Chihai:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Jana Chihai: <\/strong>\u201eS\u0103 nu st\u0103m nop\u021bile, chiar dac\u0103 nu putem dormi, s\u0103 st\u0103m ceva s\u0103 facem sau s\u0103 muncim, s\u0103 ne plimb\u0103m la aer liber, s\u0103 continu\u0103m s\u0103 m\u00e2nc\u0103m s\u0103n\u0103tos, s\u0103 nu exager\u0103m cu <em>coping<\/em>-urile negative, a\u0219a cum este fumatul, utilizarea alcoolului.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"199\" height=\"54\" src=\"https:\/\/suntbine.md\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/decorative-line-black-transparent-png-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-644\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen martie 2019, cuplul a primit prima veste bun\u0103 &#8211; Eugeniu a c\u00e2\u0219tigat bursa Fulbright. Asta a \u00eensemnat un an academic petrecut peste ocean, departe de locurile ce le aminteau de durerea prin care au trecut. \u00cen SUA, ambii s-au sim\u021bit de parc\u0103 ar fi oameni noi. Nimeni nu \u00eei \u00eentreba despre tragedia pe care au l\u0103sat-o acas\u0103. Via\u021ba a pendulat \u00eentre studii, c\u0103l\u0103torii \u0219i prieteni.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><strong><strong>Eugeniu<\/strong><\/strong><\/strong>: \u201eDoream s\u0103-mi \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219esc aceste noi senza\u021bii, aceste noi tr\u0103iri, experien\u021be din via\u021ba american\u0103 cu tat\u0103l meu, \u00eens\u0103 eu nu aveam cui s\u0103-i povestesc. Sim\u021beam chestia asta &#8211; c\u0103 el s-ar fi bucurat pentru mine, c\u0103 am reu\u0219it.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eugeniu \u0219i Cristina sim\u021beau c\u0103 rela\u021bia lor devine mai puternic\u0103. \u00cen Virginia, au g\u0103sit timp s\u0103 se cunoasc\u0103 mai bine unul pe altul \u0219i s\u0103 se apropie \u015fi mai mult.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><strong>Eugeniu<\/strong><\/strong>: \u201e\u0218i \u00een Statele Unite, unde noi eram chiar doar \u00eempreun\u0103, \u00een care to\u021bi prietenii, rudele se aflau la o distan\u021b\u0103 foarte mare de noi, eram doar eu \u0219i ea. Iat\u0103 acolo am devenit \u0219i mai uni\u021bi.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p><strong><strong>Cristina<\/strong>: <\/strong>\u201eC\u00e2teodat\u0103 m\u0103 g\u00e2ndeam: Doamne, dac\u0103 o pierdeam pe mama \u0219i nu eram \u00een aceast\u0103 rela\u021bie, nu eram c\u0103s\u0103torit\u0103, eu cred c\u0103 ar fi fost \u00eenc\u0103 mai greu s\u0103 dep\u0103\u0219e\u0219ti aceste momente, fiindc\u0103 singur\u0103tatea \u0219i sentimentul \u0103sta al pierderii acutizeaz\u0103 foarte multe st\u0103ri. Noi am fost \u00eempreun\u0103.\u201d &nbsp;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen scurt timp, urmau s\u0103 afle \u00eenc\u0103 o veste bun\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 via\u021ba lor se va schimba fundamental, din nou.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Eugeniu<\/strong>: \u201eSo\u021bia mea este gravid\u0103! \u00cen urma dragostei noastre a ap\u0103rut un copila\u0219 care \u00eenc\u0103 nu a venit pe lume, pe care-l a\u0219tept\u0103m cu drag \u0219i \u0219tiu c\u0103 voi avea un fecior. L-am numit Adrian, \u00een cinstea tat\u0103lui meu.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Acest episod a fost realizat cu sprijinul <a href=\"https:\/\/www.eda.admin.ch\/countries\/moldova\/ro\/home\/reprezentantse\/cooperare.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Biroului de cooperare al Elve\u021biei \u00een Republica Moldova<\/a>. Opiniile exprimate ne apar\u021bin \u0219i nu reflect\u0103 neap\u0103rat punctul de vedere al donatorilor.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Eugeniu \u0219i Cristina au o via\u021b\u0103 obi\u0219nuit\u0103 de cuplu: munc\u0103, ie\u0219iri \u00een ora\u0219, vizite la p\u0103rin\u021bi. O tragedie le schimb\u0103 via\u021ba timp de 24 de ore. 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